I know it’s been more than a month since I have been back from my trip to Philippines, Vietnam and Hong Kong but I felt like writing. If you remember when I wrote about pushing boundaries and doing new things while on my trip, I would say that I was very successful.
Like I had mentioned, my sister didn’t come on this trip this time so I really had to entertain myself and find things to do. And how did I do this? I had to make friends of course.
Thee best way I knew how was Grindr and Jack’d. Mostly cause I could screen them and figure if it was safe for me to meet another guy/s in another country. Though language barrier was a fun task to conquer as well. (who knew my vietnamese typing skills were so on point).
I also really wanted to know gay culture in these countries/cities that I visited since I have been to all three of them before. From most favorite to least: VN, HK, PI
Majority of the guys I met, were mostly over coffee. About 10 ish+ guys I met. It really just became a hobby and not a matter of boning a guy in another country. Listening to their life story in Asia, the struggles they had living there, just getting to know them and gay life. Some dates went even further than coffee; clubbing, bars, tours around town, shopping, food adventures and ;). I had a lot of fun getting the gay locals perspectives. I even met a group gays and drank and partied with them which made me miss my friends in SF greatly. I saw the skylines of different cities, a boy took me to his favorite temple, some took me around town, talked about film, culture, jobs, gay rights etc etc; I even met a guy with a bf he has been dating for a long while, his views on marriage, gay relationship vs straight ones, and more. I truly felt I touched on every aspect of everyday life with these guys.
I however did worry when meeting these guys, that I would actually meet someone I liked. Though I would never do a long distance relationship, especially across the ocean, just the thought of finding someone amazing was always looming. I did meet some really amazing people, had some really good talks, and just made me wonder why I couldn’t find these interesting people in the Bay Area.
Though I am very grateful and fortunate to meet all these interesting people, I’m a little over these coffee dates/hooking up. I just went on so many and met so many guys that it made me feel like I am ready for a substantial boyfriend.
And that is where I am now. In hopes of a new BF and a new job.